Am I Raising a Momma’s Boy or a Man’s Man?

My boy and I spend a lot of time together. He is my only child and I’ve become comfortable with the idea that he may be on my only child ever. We’ve spent many weekend days playing and having adventures together and I’ve been thinking lately… Am I raising a momma’s boy or a man’s man?

after the Color Run

Benjamin and I after a Color Run at the YMCA Healthy Kid’s Day

Because Howard works in retail, he often works on weekends and evenings so the boy and I go on a lot of adventures together. Last year, Howard was able to join us, but this year, we were on our own at the Color Run at the YMCA Healthy Kid’s Day, except we knew a ton of people there. We always have a blast getting “dirty” with colors and dancing. This year, he even got to play a little Gaga ball with his Y friends. We share a special bond, like all mothers and sons should, but sometimes I worry that he is too bonded to me and not enough to his daddy.

celebrating Mardi Gras

Benjamin collected a ton of beads at the Mardi Gras parade.

Benjamin has a special glow when we are spending time together. He loves to be with Mommy and we giggle and play and I think that is wonderful. He is my “Buddy” and he makes me feel young. We talk about toys and games and sometimes about life. I hope that he continues to feel comfortable talking to me about what is on his mind when he starts going through “real life” stuff. I want him to feel bonded with me and I love our special relationship, but I don’t want him to be labeled as a Momma’s Boy, and do I really want him to be labeled as a Man’s Man either?

at the fireworks

  Benjamin always wraps around my neck during fireworks.

This type of thing is what I mean. I know that a lot of kids fear loud noises and fireworks can be a little intimidating when you only see them twice per year, but this boy is six years old and once the fireworks started, he is glued to my cheek with his arms around my neck for the entire show. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE it…but I want him to start the growing up process.

cowboy day at school

Benjamin being an angel cowboy.

Here’s where I know this boy is going to be alright. He knows how to ham it up and be a goof. He hangs with his daddy and they love wrestling, wings, ribs, and of course, the obligatory farting and burping. He’s my little angel when he needs to be and he’s daddy boy at other times.

last day of Kindergarten

Last day of Kindergarten – excuse the hair, you’ll see why it’s so long…

I think it might be okay because my little boy is growing up. He did wonderfully during Kindergarten this year and he’s looking forward to 1st grade. He might have a lovey sometimes because he loves stuffed animals…


Summer haircut – Mohawk!

But he’s still my crazy boy! He’s a blast and I’m blessed to be a #boymom. I think I’m doing an okay job so far and I’ll keep figuring this out as I go along.

touching a snake

Touching a snake at the YMCA

So, am I raising a momma’s boy or a man’s man? I think any boy who would love on his momma one day and touch a snake another day is going to be alright!

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