About once a month this post pops into my head and I think and think about it and then I never actually get it written. Usually it is triggered by some event that has happened and I don’t want to write it out of spite or anger and then when nothing is going on and blog life is good then I don’t want to jinx it or I don’t want to relive the negative side of blogging. This time, I’m writing it and if it just makes one person think about how to support your favorite bloggers then my job here is done.
Before I was a blog writer, I was a blog reader. I’ve said it many times here before, but it bears repeating. I started reading blogs to learn how to coupon, but I continued reading blogs because I could read about people, their families, their advice, their good days and bad days. I’ve learned so much about people and I’ve met so many great people from reading blogs. When I decided to start blogging I reached out to one of my favorite bloggers and she encouraged me to get started. My world opened up back then and life just hasn’t been the same ever since. But I often wonder how do people support their favorite bloggers on a regular basis? How do other bloggers support each other daily? What is the best way to support your friends and your colleagues when you have an online relationship or an online friendship?
I’ll tell you this. I have subscribed by email to about 20 blogs and I have a filter in my email so that these subscriptions go to a “reading” folder. Every day I go into that folder and look through what my friends are writing and I read. I read a lot. I read for a living and then in my spare time I read blogs. I’m reading what you’re writing. Why? Because I want to support you. I know you are putting your heart and soul into your blog, not only because it is making you money or helping you work through something in your life, but simply because you wrote it and you wrote so others would see it.
Do I get anything in return? Maybe, maybe not. It doesn’t matter because that is not why I am reading.
Do I always comment and share and shout to the world that they should read it, too? No, because that is not who I am. I am a quiet, reserved person who listens with her heart. I will comment from time to time, as often as I possibly can, to let you know that I’m around and I’m listening. But is that enough?
I think about my own blog and where I would like to go with it. It’s a random blog about my life. I wrote my family story and I write about my husband and my boy. I throw in a few crafty posts from time to time, and I write about my weight loss journey, but how do I get my readers to really hear what I have to say? How do I know that anyone is listening?
The truth of the matter is, I don’t know and maybe I don’t need to know. Maybe I just need to read and support my favorite bloggers in my own way, whether I get something in return or not.
Here’s a tough truth that happened to me recently. I’m a part of a tribe on Triberr and I go in to share my tribe’s posts every other day or so. I’m not always good about remembering and to be honest, I don’t share every single post, but I do share 95% of them. Recently I was turned down for a really big opportunity because it appeared that I was promoting a competing company by tweeting out one of those posts. I was hurt. I cried. But one thing I do know is that while I might be slightly more careful about what I tweet from that tribe, I will NOT change the way I support the tribe members.
What I’m going to change is how I feel about the support I give. I’m going to continue giving the full support to my favorite bloggers as I always have. I’m going to continue searching for new blogs to follow where I know I connect with their writing. And…I’m going to build up my confidence and know that what I’m doing is enough, is uplifting to others, is who I am…and is just what I was meant to do.