That Crazy Man I Love {He’s living in pain now}

Hubby and The Boy sleeping

These two look exhausted, don’t they? We all are! We have been busy, busy in our daily lives and even busier on the weekends. As a quick update, Hubby lost his job a few weeks ago, just a few days after he was injured at work and he is living in pain! He had almost completed physical therapy before he was fired, but he had one more session and then a follow-up consult. He was approved by worker’s comp for those two appointments, but since he was still in pain he was sent for an MRI.

Well, the MRI revealed some pretty significant damage. Hubby has injured the muscles in his knee pretty badly. I don’t know what it is called, but it is painful. He basically can’t do much around the house and he has been told by the worker’s comp doctor that he cannot work.

Wait, what?!

Yes, friends, Hubby is in severe pain almost constantly. He has been fired from his job. He is lingering on worker’s comp (um…but not getting paid) and he has been told that he cannot work. Even if (and this is a big IF) he felt like working, he would not be able to because he has not been released by the doctor. He is actually in so much pain when he is on his feet, though, that there is no work in his skill set (chef, food prep, butcher, grocery retail) that he could physically do at this time.

Hubby is living in pain from this!

Now, I would like to say that I’m this supportive and loving wife and I can handle it all and things are going great, but I’m not. I’m going to be completely honest and tell you that I have been a real bi*ch to him this week. You see, we are also moving next week (August 1-2) and we hadn’t started packing. I am carrying a burden of providing financially for the family now that Hubby’s last paycheck and his 401K has run out (he didn’t have a lot in it so we just cashed it in) and things are really tight around our household. Our dishwasher is broken and since we are moving to a new rental house, we haven’t bothered to ask our landlord to buy a new one. And…my sister is about to have a baby!

So, things are stressful around the house and I have been taking it out on him. It’s not fair, but I have nobody else to vent or be upset at other than him. He is taking it well and helping where he can. He was able to round up a ton of boxes and pack quite a bit for us. He has found someone to move us (because he can’t lift a box or move furniture, that’s for sure!) and he has set up all of the transfers, such as electricity and cable and so on. He is doing a wonderful job. I feel guilty for being a bi*ch. I need to get my own emotions and stress in check…

Why I Love My Husband

{the never-ending list}

Now for more of my never-ending list

76. Despite living in pain, he wants to make me happy. 

77. Despite living in pain, he is still always in a good mood.

78. Despite living in pain, he is always entertaining our boy so I can work just a little longer. 

79. Despite living in pain, he wants to help around the house. Or at least he does it anyway and doesn’t complain.

80. Despite living in pain, he is still the only man I love. And the one I want to provide for through this stressful time.

Happy Wives Club

I’m building this never-ending list every Thursday (even though they moved the linky to Monday once a month) with the Happy Wives Club. Sometimes, it will be mushy and sometimes it will be hilarious, but it will always be true.

Do you have someone in your life who is living in pain? How do you help them?


  1. Mai says:

    I’m sorry that your husband is in pain! But despite of it, I’m glad that he still has a positive outlook in life! I love your transparency, this post is very inspiring…hang in there! Patience is a virtue… 🙂

    Visiting you from the Happy Wives Club Link Up.

  2. talia says:

    Hi dear, I feel identified withyou because we pass a similar situation last month, my hubby losted his job by unfair circumstances,from a company he had work for 25 years, He had to learn how to find a Job, how to make a resumee, etc. We applied for the unemployement help but the government denied to us, And my back started again with problems, so Feeling in a lot of pain I had to take care of my toddler and the house,( so my hubby could focus on searching job) so without Job and any kind of Insurance I had to go to therapy 2 times a week ( $210 each) , I was stressed because Of the situation and Im sure that my little boy feel it because he was irritated, I started to behave like a grinch with my hubby and my son, until I call a friend to tell her what was happening, eventhough I prayed My attitude was not a help to support my axious husband. We prayed an read the bible every morning, I encoraged him to wait in the Lord, we ask alll of our friends to prayed for us. So hoping without seeing apparenty nothing,we wait, till one call that changed everything! A good company hired him, his last recriuter indemnized him . the following week was our wedding aniversary so having somedays to enter to thenew job and a budget we went for a trip to celebrate! Iasked God Big! And he answered big! I would like to pray for you dear, and If is there another way to help I would love to, pleasesendme his resume, we would love to help! Excuse my bad english Talia.

  3. Tammy S says:

    Wow you have a ton on your plate right now. I hope your husband gets back on his feet soon. I can’t believe they would fire him when he had just been injured at work. That doesn’t seem right to me. I hope the move goes smoothly and you two can get back on your feet. I really liked hoe you kept in mind that even though you are stressed you still have a husband that you are in love with. Hang in there!

  4. Yikes! What a stressful time in your house! Stay strong and don’t let it divide you.

  5. Ana says:

    Aaargh! I can feel your stress through the page. I’m sure your husband realizes how tough this is on you too and won’t take your bitching too much to heart. But here’s hoping you soon get settled in your new place and your husband has a speedy recovery. Meanwhile maybe extra hugs and kisses will help you both through this tricky period and never go amiss ;).

  6. Xae says:

    Visiting from SITS, this is a great post, Janet! Your man sounds amazing and I hope he feels better soon 🙂

  7. Teresa says:

    Sorry to hear that your husband is in pain. Glad to see the Love List at the end of your post. It’s sweet. Hang in there…things will get better!

    Visiting from SITS Saturday ShareFest

  8. barb says:

    I hope things get better for the both of you soon. I hope your husband gets to feeling better too – with the right medicine, therapy, and what have you…so sorry you’ve got such a heavy load on your shoulders right now.

    Darn I wish we lived closer…I, as you know, have been feeling under the weather too (emotionally and mentally); at least if we were closer we could help each other out (physically). Not attending BlogHer (for the 5th year) has put me in a “mood” too; I want to go to BlogHer soooooo bad!!!

    Hugs are being thrown your way – catch them. 🙂

    ~ Barb

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