Recently, I was prompted to "Introduce" myself, my blog, etc. and I started to tell my Life Story. My life is not amazing weird or different, but I have some strong emotions when it comes to my mom. As I left things in the last post, it seemed that I had only negative feelings about my mom, but I have some wonderful memories of my mom and I want to share them with my younger sister, B, for her birthday tomorrow. My mom passed away 5 years ago and my sister is pregnant with her first baby. B will be 29 on her birthday and when she has her first baby. Mom was 29 when she had B. I want to share these memories with B so she can have happy memories of mom and can enjoy her pregnancy and her first baby.
Five Memories of my Mom and Special Birthday for my Sister
1. Yellow Rose of Texas
My mom loved all roses, but she especially loved yellow roses. When I was growing up, we had a small rose bush on the far corner of our house that would randomly grow a rose. It was a different color almost every time it grew and I can remember my dad bringing it in to my mom when it was in full bloom. I picked up a yellow climbing rose bush for my sister's special birthday bag.
2. Sno-Caps Nonpareils
Mom loved dark chocolate and she especially loved nonpareils. When I was young, there was a mall we would visit from time to time. I don't remember what mall or where it was, but it had a candy store. We didn't get to buy much, but I remember my mom always buying nonpareils. My little sister loves these as well and I'm not sure if that is because Mom liked them or if she just really likes them. Who knows…I needed to put them in her special gift bag.
3. Magazines (especially Reader's Digest)
Mom loved to read magazines. She mostly only read Reader's Digest or the TV Guide (which was a special treat in our house). I think she secretly liked to read romance novels, too, but she rarely had them around. It might have been taboo or something. I don't think my little sister reads much, but I found this Fit Pregnancy magazine and some of the articles seemed like something she would enjoy. She has been "studying" her What to Expect books and asking a lot of health related questions.
4. Lotion for dry skin
Mom always took excellent care of her skin, especially her hands. The tricky thing about Mom was that she was allergic to scents (just like me) and she couldn't just pick up any lotion available. Mom had especially dry hands because she worked in a jeans factory so she had to keep them hydrated. Lotions like NIVEA Essentially Enriched are great for extra dry hands. A while back I held a Spa at Home party with my sister and her friends so I knew B would like the lotion again. The NIVEA lotion at Sam's Club is such a great value that I took another trip to Sam's Club to pick up a new package for her and reminisce about my mom's love of beauty products.
5. Special Notebook for Lists and Notes
My mom always had a special notebook that she kept by the phone for taking notes or making grocery lists. I remember looking at it after she passed away and seeing just a glimpse of what she had been planning and what she had been doing before she died. I've noticed that B has a similar notebook that is always by her computer. I think she keeps track of her bills along with other notes. One of my favorite things to do in my mom's notebook (and B's and a little notepad in my dad's office) was to open the notebook to a random page in the middle and leave a special note. You never know when that person will get the note, but I can guarantee they will get it on the exact day that they need it.
Something Special just for B
I couldn't help myself when I was looking at candy so I grabbed a package of Sour Skittles. B said she has been craving them and cannot get enough of them since she has been pregnant. I'm sure there is some deficiency somewhere that she should be filling with something healthy, but hey…you're only pregnant with your first child once. I say she should live it up and enjoy every second of it! If mom were still here, she would tell B the exact same thing.
Stay Connected (to Loved Ones and to Memories)
As I mentioned, my sister is pregnant with her first baby and she is struggling emotionally. She was very close to my mom and mom's death has hit her extremely hard. Because I feel like I "raised" her for the beginning of her life (long story…another time), this also hits me very hard. I don't like to see B struggle and I want to be there for her again. She mentioned that she is already worried about who will be in the delivery room with her because all she really wants is Mom to be with her. She and I have a lot to talk about!
Mom passed away in August 2007 and my son was born in February 2008. She knew I was pregnant, but her "last words" to me (over the phone and through B) were "boy or girl" and I didn't know at that time. Being able to spend some time together with B and talking about memories of my mom, talking about being a mom, and talking about how to take care of yourself as a woman (pamper yourself, get time alone, keep your skin healthy, etc) is the perfect way for us to stay connected as sisters (and friends) and staying connected to our memories.
How do you stay connected to your loved ones and to your memories?
What memories do you have of your mom?
What memories do you want your children to have of you?
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