I AM Mom Enough

Best Moms Hands Down #MomEnough

There's a small stir around Mommy bloggers at the moment and I thought I would take a moment to talk about my feelings on this – bear with me because I have so many racing thoughts that I want to share… 

When I saw the cover of Time magazine featuring Jamie Grumet, I was taken in by the shock value that I'm sure was marketing strategies at it's best. As I read deeper into the reasoning (and the story) behind it, I feel proud to be a mom and proud for the ability to be free to choose how you raise your children, and proud to be a part of this Mommy blogger community that is rallying to report how they are Mom Enough!! 

I have not read the article in full, but the gist of it is Jamie explaining her decision to practice Attachment Parenting and features a picture of her breast feeding her three year old son. The cover features bold letters asking, "ARE YOU MOM ENOUGH", which has struck a cord with moms all over the blogosphere. There is so much in this world today that feed into mommy guilt that this cover and title is ingenious on one hand (seriously, how many people are looking, writing, and talking about this right now?!) and unfortunate on the other hand (I feel guilt enough as it is!!).

I ask myself on a daily basis if I'm doing "enough" for my son, but deep inside I know that whether it is "enough" in the eyes of someone else or not, it is ALL I can do and it is "enough" in my son's eyes…and THAT is "enough"!!

I am #MomEnough

When my son was born, he did not breast feed immediately. The nurses told me they would get some help for me so I should rest and they would bring my boy to me after the doctor checked him out. I had been up for over 30 hours at that point so I fell asleep. I woke up when they told me I had to move rooms because they ran out of birthing rooms, but then fell asleep again. I remember waking at about 4am (he was born at 10:37pm) and panicking because I had not seen him again. I asked the nurse if I could try to feed him again and they told me they had given him sugar water because he was hungry and I hadn't fed him…wha-what?!! Then they proceeded to tell me that they did not have enough staff to bring him to me so I walked across the hospital to the nursery to get him and kept him in my room for the remainder of our stay.

I was livid!! 

He was able to breastfeed with bottle supplements for the first two months before I had to go back to work. I pumped for him for another month, but I just couldn't keep up and I felt I had done the best I could. Do I wish I could have gone longer? Yes!! Do I feel guilty for stopping? No way!!

You may recall that my family believes in the Family Bed (only now that my boy is older) so he still sleeps with us at age 4.

Do I wish that he slept in his own bed? Sometimes!!

Do I take steps to transition him? Nope!!

I work full time outside the home and I am the primary breadwinner of our family. I worked up until the day I gave birth (mostly because he was three weeks early and I wasn't expecting it) and I only stayed home for two months after he was born.

Do I wish that I had more time with him sometimes? Yes!!

Do I want to be a stay-at-home mom? Absolutely NOT!!

I have to admit that I am in AWE of stay at home moms, home schooling moms, work at home moms…and anyone who spends their entire day every day with their own children or someone else's children!! I love my child more than life itself, but neither of us want to be together 24/7 and FOR US it's healthy for us to have time together and apart.

One final thought:

I have worked in the Child Abuse field for almost eight years and moms (in their children's eyes) are ALWAYS enough!!

No. Matter. What.

Here are a few reasons I feel that I AM MOM ENOUGH:

♦ I worry about my child non-stop ♦ I pray for my child daily ♦ I love my child's father unconditionally ♦ I work on my marriage every single day so that my child can have a complete family ♦ I brag on my child daily ♦ I teach my child to give to others ♦ I stand up for my child when he has been wronged ♦

I also asked around to some of my Mom Blogger friends and here is why they are MOM ENOUGH:

I am #momenough to fight tooth and nail to see that my child with #specialneeds gets the support she requires in life/at home and at school. – Thrifty Momma's Tips

I am definitely not perfect but I love my daughter – she is a happy good girl. We might not have every toy, gadget, or cool clothing but we have real love in our home. I am mom enough! – Long Wait for Isabella

I'm mom enough to admit that my kid has fur…and poops on the grass. – Woof Woof Mama

I am Mom enough because I'm a Mom, Grandmom, business woman, blogger, daughter, sister, caretaker….and Im still sane. POW – Marg's World

I am psychic, have eyes in the back of my head, and I am always guessing what my sons next move will be before he does. I lost weight just by bouncing my son around in my arms to put him to sleep, but gained it right back from stress after he learned to walk. Most of all, I can easily carry my toddler, hot coffee, diaper bag, my purse, and 3 bags of groceries up a staircase with 30 or more steps. – MamaNYC

Tell me now – Are you MOM ENOUGH?





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— stephanie anderson (@DonnaReedSteph) May 12, 2012

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Comments

  1. kristen says:

    If we love our children and truly want what is best for them, then we are good enough
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  2. B C EDWARDS says:

    I think that the picture will haunt the boy personally as it is now viral and will more then likely be shown to him over and over by bullys, and I don’t think that is smart parenting, to subject your child to something like that, esp when you know how bad kids can be to one another

    but that is my personal opinion

    • I think that might be my only problem with it all.. It’s not my place to tell someone how to parent, but this is unfortunate for that boy..

      • B C EDWARDS says:

        yeah, I don’t care if you want to breast feed til they are 20, but I seriously think that the kid will be bullied because that picture is not just gonna disappear

  3. Great article! I don’t pass judgment on her parenting style. As mother’s we are all free to decide what’s best for our children, which is great. My first thought when I seen the picture was “How is he going to like this when he’s older?” As a mom of four, I’ve been a bottle feeder and a breast feeder. I am #momenough because I try to always make the best decision for me and my children. My kids are healthy, loving, nurturing and learning more everyday. My children know that they are loved.
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    • That’s awesome!! My son wakes up with a smile on his face every morning, laughs all day, and even giggles in his sleep sometimes!! We are ALL #momenough!!

  4. I may not necessarily agree with a mom who chooses to breast feed a child at the age of 3 but I certainly do not sit in judgement of her for doing it. It is not something I would do.

    I am Mom enough because I have raised 3 beautiful, intelligent children and I survived and so did they! My oldest 2 have graduated college and my youngest is finishing his sophomore year in high school.

    Did I make mistakes in raising them, oh most definitely but that doesn’t mean I am not mom enough! I am very proud of my the adults my children have/are becoming!

    Thanks for an awesome article on this subject!
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  5. You are a great mom! It’s evident in every single post that you mention your sweet boy! And you pray for him and love him immensely, so I know you rock!
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  6. You and I have a LOT of the same views, it seems. You sound like a great mom to me, so don’t let an article cause you to question yourself. I feel that the title of this Time article both defends one view while simultaneously placing judgment on those that don’t agree (i.e. if you don’t breastfeed, perhaps it’s because you aren’t as good of a mom as myself). I have not read this article but the one thing that bothers me is the amount of ridicule I am sure this child will have to endure from school mates because of the picture. Sure, tons of kids breastfeed, but how many have their pictures that prove it all over the cover of a national magazine for all of their immature classmates to gawk at? I probably would have not taken the picture simply to save my child some face.

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    • I actually hadn’t thought about that until today when I saw someone else comment about it. I don’t have any judgment over her decisions about parenting, but this is a controversial topic and picture that will follow this child around for the rest of his life!!

  7. I can remember that I was really upset when it was discovered I did not have enough milk for my baby. I worked hard, and I had to learn not to get all upset and think I was harming my daughter. I get tired of hearing that formula-fed babies are not as good as breast-fed babies. All I know is that my daughter is smarter than most of the kids in her class, and she has developed at a normal rate–sometimes even above normal. So with God’s help, she is who she is today.

    Thank you for sharing!

    • Exactly!! These things are not in our hands anyway so there is no way you can judge a woman until you know her story…even then it’s not my place to judge God’s children.

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